Thinking about 'us' vs thinking about 'me'
In almost every culture in the world, tribal or community thinking is an inherent part of daily life. Similar to the symbiotic relationships of nature, where trees provide shelter for animals, and animals provide fertiliser for trees, 'thinking tribe' means that everyone has their place and their role, and gives their gifts to others, while having their needs met by the rest of their tribe. Living Tribe can encompass:
1. The idea that people should be equal (adults and children)
2. The idea that we live within our environment and that therefore the environment, and the people within our environment, should be our very first priority.
3. And the realisation that death is as close as missing the next breath and not taking another one. That life is precious and shouldn't be squandered on things that we don't find meaningful.
Why does this have anything to do with 'thinking tribe'?
In social work we have something called 'thinking group' which refers to the mind space that you get in to when you are actively and willingly part of a collective of people, and start thinking not just for yourself, but as a group. It is essentially a move away from the unnatural culture of individualism that we find ourselves in, in modern society, and a move toward remembering how to think as a collective.
A lot of non-Western cultures have 'thinking group' entrenched in everything that they do. There is a tribe mentality amongst many nationalities of people who do not identify themselves as belonging to a tribe, but rather, innately bond with family members, and people within their communities, and therefore perform daily tasks in groups or collectives. The benefits of collective action are that;
In modern, Western society, in particular, thinking tribe can be a balm for all kinds of ills. We suffer from the same disease that makes us obese and dying of nutrient deficiency. We have over-exposure to media, and one thousand voices, and yet are isolated in our bubble, with little support from those around us, as we are constantly receiving the message that individualism = freedom, where in reality, individualism means the pressure to do everything well, by yourself, all of the time.
At a time when people are committing suicide, developing anxiety disorders faster than we know what to do with them, and dropping one-by-one from lifestyle-related diseases like cancer and heart disease. Why are we eating rubbish food and not exercising? because in between instagram and the treadmill, work, kids, and life, there are just not enough hours a day to indulge in self-care! We are sleeping on average, 2 hours less than we need to, every single night, because we don't have time to sleep.
What is so important that we don't have time to sleep?
The same thing that is too important to allow time for a slow, healthy lunch or an hour in the gym.
Individualism and the need for perfection in every role that you are trying to fill all by yourself.
Why are we doing this to ourselves? Why are we doing this to each other? What and who is benefitting? This is your call to tribe. This is your call away from individualism. You can be free with the support of others. You can be your wonderful, imperfect, shining, individual self, when you are not bogged down under the endless mounds of responsibilities and tasks that can only be completed by you. All by yourself. Because someone has decided that you will be playing the role of superwoman in your life. Or superman. We are one of the only cultures in the world that perpetuates, revels in, and drowns under, this myth of super-human responsibility, and today we can decide to do it differently.
We are a family of 6 creatives, homeschooling/ unschooling and trying our best to live a minimalist life in our own slice of paradise on the coast of Australia - Artist Mama, Guitarist Papa, Surfie Teen, Satirical Teen, Musician Teen and Wild Little One. Welcome to our life..